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Don’t Become Overly Concerned

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Powerful Mind Part 33
Welcome to this week’s Bill Harvey Blog – November 15, 2024
Created October 20, 2023

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In the Observer state, one has learned how to create a gap inside between autonomic reactions and the actual owning of taken positions. In Emergency Oversimpliification Procedure (EOP) the two things occur simultaneously: for example, as soon as you are slighted by another person you immediately feel hurt and angry. In Observer state you sense your body taking on those emotions but you yourself are in no rush to embrace any sort of negative feelings. You understand and forgive your ego for its “normal” reaction but already see others in the room whose expressions show they are taking your side and you feel above all such trivia. The automatic reactions that sought to take you over slink away like ocean wetness disappearing in sand after a wave.

Blasé is the word for Observer state, as observed by other people watching you. Whatever the provocation you appear immune to “normal human reactions”. “Cool-headedness” is another apropos descriptor of Observer state.

In the early stages of wearing the Observer state before fully embodying it, you are as an actor, pretending to be as blasé as you wish to really be. Your will is strengthening as you are able to command your exterior persona to project what you wish, containing inside invisibly what might initially still be the needy ego inflamed by imagined insults or shortfalls in due respect being paid to you. Careful to not simply fall into sustained egotism pretending to be a blasé person but actually remaining in EOP as a permanent pretender to yourself as well as to others. That trap is all too easy to fall into. You’ll know to the degree that you are really observing yourself internally and being honest with yourself. When you can really skip over the action impulses of your ego, you will notice it, and know that you’re not just pretending but are actually in Observer state.

This Key #7 of Observation has many sides to it, which is true of all the 12 Powerful Mind Keys. To review the facets of Observation we have discussed and for which we have provided action tips, the first was a discussion of the five physical senses and the interior senses of the mind including feelings, images, and wordless thoughts as well as the internal dialog in explicit words.

We would add here another idea about internal words: note the words you use in your mind. Are they words you’d normally speak aloud? Are they in language reminding you of any writer you may have been reading recently? Does your mind’s actual choice of words contain any subtle signal?

Pay particular attention to feelings that occur without words. Some of these may be hunches. You may have almost invisible reservations about something you are about to say to someone. Be on the lookout for hunches like that, and give them the benefit of the doubt; instead of saying what was on its way out of your mouth, modify it to be more gentle and more of a question than a statement, or say nothing at all and then pay attention to what happens, how your words or silence appear to affect the other person or people.

Hunches are among the most valuable material produced by your mind, do not trample over them, nor leap to believing them entirely. If negativity is present it is a warning so proceed cautiously step by step zeroing out all previous assumptions entirely.

We then spent some time talking about the ego, its needy nature, the fact that it acts as if it is the whole of the real you, whereas it is more like your own biological AI, an assistant who takes over as much as it can, and if allowed, dominates the real you. And all it wants is petty satisfactions, it has no noble aims, and so if you let your life be run from that sub-self, you will be a petty person leaving only faint traces of your gifts in your timeline. In your last moments of life you will feel regret in realizing how much you undershot the opportunity. Not a total loss, that learning will serve you well if you discover your consciousness goes on to another life, as I suspect you will.

We then went on to recommend that serving other people first is the better approach as compared with pushing your own agenda ahead of inviting others to go first. And finally we presented a series of one-liner observational tips from Mind Magic. We’re ready to sum up this Key.

Key #7

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Take Observer position, note your feelings without owning them

This Key will help you become more observant internally and this will spill over into being more observant externally. Instead of allowing distractions to jerk you from one thing to the next, you will be in a more self-controlled and stable platform inside, master of your own impulses and less enslaved by incoming stimuli. In general you will be calmer and less subject to the startle reaction, also less likely to be overtaken by uncontrollable snap reactions when your buttons are pushed by practiced manipulators. You will discover that being aware of your breath is far more helpful than you ever knew.

This Key will not automatically always take you into the Observer state, but it will increase the odds of getting there more often, especially over time because practice indeed makes perfect.

Love,
Bill

Be Indomitable

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Welcome to this week’s Bill Harvey Blog, November 8, 2024.
Created February 16, 2024

Being indomitable is consciously favoring the approach mode.

The day my mother died, Jewish customs would have been for the whole family to do nothing else but “sit shivvah” for several days. Therefore, they were shocked when my father, MC and orchestra leader in a big NYC nightclub, went to work that night. His eyes briefly met mine, and without his having to say it out loud, his eyes told me what they had both always taught me about moments like these. The show must go on.

In moment-to-moment living, we each have our ups and downs. It occurs to some of us that we are being dominated by the inputs we receive from moment to moment, without having the ability to resist the invisible strings on our puppet selves being pulled by outside forces, and this stiffens our resolve to not be jerked around by the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune. We then go inside to find or to build the control systems that will make us each master of our own self, impervious to outside control by anyone and anything.

This discovery of one’s inner abilities to overcome one’s own negative emotions and not to be excessively carried away by one’s own positive emotions goes back long before spoken or written language, long before humans were able to clarify the processes involved enough to pass along how-to instructions. One of the earliest schools of philosophy on record is stoicism. This philosophy was all about understanding and inculcating these control abilities in human beings. Epictetus, in my estimation the greatest stoic philosopher of them all, was born as a slave. Enslavement gave him a fertile ground of unhappiness to deal with, and instead of caving into a life of misery, he faced squarely up to his situation and found out how he could modify his reactions to that situation. His book The Enchiridion, when I first discovered it as a teenager, blew my mind because stuff I had been working on within myself had actually existed before.

The need to become more fatalistic and resilient may not be greater than ever before in human hisandherstory but it is certainly much greater now than ever before in my lifetime. I need not list the litany of threat vectors currently present on our dance card. Possibly the one that is most disheartening is the attitude of young people who feel they have been gypped, and those who feel that way do so, not without good reason. The world needs a lot of fixing and we are just the species that can do that fixing in the highest and most heroic manner. Soon there will be a realization of a need to shift into that mindset, rising to the challenge. As we did, as a species, in WWII. That same right stuff still resides within us. It’s time to call upon it, to draw it out, to become the indomitable selves that we are and have always been. It’s what we are here to learn how to do, and to demonstrate that we have learned it. Then perhaps we can graduate to the next classroom.

I find it very interesting to learn from latest neuroscience the underlying computational functions of the brain. My special interest comes from a lifetime of introspection with concentration in which I have always attempted to understand how I make decisions and to improve upon the methods I observe myself using. Now in the light of current neuroscience I can link up my experiential evidence with the revelations of fMRI and EEG. For example, Richy Davidson, one of my many neuroscientist mentors, back in the 1980s when we had a company together, discovered that emotional valence could be measured based upon asymmetrical energy use in the left and right lobes of the frontal cortex, a method that is still prominent today. In the brain, this valence is understood to be based on the concept of approach versus avoidance. Positive emotion comes along with approach, whereas negative emotion is part of avoidance.

Being indomitable is consciously favoring the approach mode.
Stepping forward to engage with the challenges.
Fixing rather than worrying.

One cannot simply decide to do this, and then it is done. The effort involved is primarily one of self-discipline. This is hardest in the beginning and then becomes easier and easier with practice.

Whatever we choose to focus on internally becomes a stronger force in our lives.

When one is thrown into the pool as a babe, one swims, and instinctively swims with the current if there is one. Given little time to think the modern child is rushed into play with other children, sports and then studies, with daily doses of media, creating masses of questions and thoughts from all these impressions. Processing time to contemplate all of this is not built into the daily regime of our culture yet. In a subtle and generally unnoticed way, the child proceeding into adulthood adopts a somewhat defensive coping lens as the main way of thinking. What could go wrong, fear, plans to deal with feared situations, doing this planning in snatches between externally assigned priorities which must be coped with moment to moment.

The most dangerous aspect of this condition is that if a person spends most of their time focused on what could go wrong, they are actually mentally rehearsing for those things to go wrong. To repeat, whatever we choose to focus on internally becomes a stronger force in our lives. If we are focusing on the downside scenarios we are increasing the probabilities of those scenarios occurring.

How does this happen? There is a continuum of explanations, schools of thought. Physicalists (believers in materialistic accidentalism) may admit that this occurs but insist that it is because the individual is giving off micromomentary signals which telegraph their fears in a way that provokes others to manipulate them, all on an unconscious level. Two of our greatest physicists of all time, Wheeler and Hawking, posit what Wheeler named the Participatory Anthropic Principle, by which our consciousness helps cause reality. This theory rests on Wheeler’s theory that underlying what we dub as physical (“its”) are “bits” of information, and that both consciousness and matter/energy are therefore reducible to information, out of which everything is made. This is a short step away from my theory that a single self-aware consciousness is where all this information resides.

In both versions of reality, physicalism and cosmopsychism, there is adequate support for the true existence of the programming of reality by the thoughts and feelings of the individual. However one explains it, it is there, and ignoring it and giving in to wallowing in pessimism, what we might call brain avoidance rather than brain approach, is self-sabotaging.

So here we all are as a species wallowing in pessimism. Remaining this way cannot have a happy ending. The stoic response to this situation is to unlock concern about the probable bad landing ahead, to fatalistically accept it could easily happen, but to make oneself focus courageously on bringing about the happy landing anyway. Once understanding the way the feedback loop works, this is the only sane response, taking active conscious control of where the mind is allowed to go.

Realism requires that a small allocation of time is spent on making contingency plans for how to avoid the undesired outcome, and how to deal with it should it occur, so long as first and last the mind is mentally rehearsing and pre-experiencing the desired future of the individual. Meaning that contingency planning should be done seriously and carefully but not dwelt upon, instead gotten over with, so as to resume consciously telling the universe the way the movie happy ending is to be for oneself.

Chemicals and electrical trickery is used within the brain and body which makes it hard to get out of bad moods such as fear, anxiety, grief, resentment, and so on. It helps me to realize that the sodium pentothal and other psychometric drugs used to interrogate and brainwash are the same sorts of chemical agents my own brain whips up to give me these overwhelming feelings that dissolve my ability to focus on fixing. Knowing this enables me to see my brain as trying to force me into feeling certain ways I know to be against my best interests, and gives me the gumption to force back those feelings.

“Yes, that could happen, but why do I care so much?”

“Yes, that could happen, and I’ve prepared myself to deal with it if it does happen, including not showing it’s gotten to me, but meanwhile, I might as well enjoy every second to the max, and it may never happen and I may get away with it to the very end.”

“Or if it eventually does happen, I will have the satisfaction of knowing that I had fun without fear for such a long time, I got away with all of that, and so if it all ends badly at least I will know that I did what was right, what was good, and I can authentically admire myself for it.”

Self-admiration is a much healthier thing to experience than pride. Pride is not self-admiration because it goes too far and mixes it with vanity. This is caused by the needy defensive stance of the ego which is the sense of not having caught up with integrating all the clashing parts of myself (integrity).

There are other practical ways one can increase the ability to remain in the approach mode. Time alone especially in nature, paying attention internally, seeing the good, counting the blessings, seeing the beauty all around, remembering all the good in people, being grateful, opening the mind to all possibilities, recapturing the awe and wonder of existing as a consciousness in a vast universe, realizing the wellsprings of creativity inside which can be tapped to solve anything, remembering all of the love one has for this person and that thing, and understanding the scientific possibility that we are all one benevolent loving self, manifesting as many for the fun and learning. All of these are powerful inhibitors of the avoidance reaction.

You may still decide to avoid certain things that you conclude just bring you down, but you will do so indomitably rather than fearfully. You will find a smile on your face when you look in the mirror rather than a grim visage. Your sunny disposition will draw and uplift other people making it faster for this wave of indomitability to ripple out across the pond until herd immunity to fear and pessimism has been achieved.

Each of us shall then be a mensch.

Love to all,
Bill

What Would Socrates Do?

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Welcome to a special Pebbles blogpost.
Created October 23, 2024

Socrates took being a citizen to be a solemn matter.

He felt a responsibility to act in the proper manner for a citizen. He even agreed that the State had the right to put him to death, despite knowing it was their error.

Perhaps it is no longer the modern way to make such commitments to ideas.

Unless you are immune to reality, you are probably attuned enough to be voting in this election.

No election before ever had such significance in the history of the world. Many millions of people are getting very involved in this election. Many who are still undecided are preparing for it by studying the solutions that each candidate is talking about and trying to be objective in comparing these proposed solutions.

It’s the kind of thing you want to be a part of. Even if you never voted before, and never do it again.

Everything you experience teaches you things.

Here are my suggestions on how to get the most out of this election in terms of having a peak experience, knowing you are part of history.

Really feel alive. Take deep breaths. Look at the sky.

When you are in the voting booth (or voting in advance), here are the steps:

1.   Look and feel deep inside yourself, who you really are in yourself, not your parents, not anybody else. What do you want out of your future? For yourself, and all of the people you care about.

2.   Focus on one candidate. Let yourself imagine what it’s going to be like on that timeline if this one wins. How it will affect you, and all the people you care about.

3.   Do the same with the other candidate.

4.   Vote.

Love to all,
Bill

 

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Keeping Score Is Mundane Thinking

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Powerful Mind Part 26
Welcome to this week’s Bill Harvey Blog, October 18, 2024.
Created September 1, 2023
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We have been conditioned to rate how well we have performed for other people. Our parents told us we were “a good boy” or “a good girl” at times, and “bad boy” or “bad girl” at other times. Gradually we became more aware of which things would get us which rating, and played to that scorecard. Now, all these many years later, that same approval-seeking program still has independent existence in our minds.

It is what it is. Good and bad are just labels we paste on real things. This labeling has positive outcomes when it helps guide us toward benefitting living things and away from disadvantaging them. But the way we are constantly labeling ourselves moment to moment is a neurotic pattern that is mostly counterproductive.

We also carry around a certain amount of unforgiven guilt, probably as deeply repressed as we can make it. We regret some things we did in our past and some part of us refuses to ever forgive ourselves for it. Even if we act out such a forgiveness it tends not to take the first few times.

These related behaviors use up a certain amount of cognitive capacity that holds us back from Flow state. Our thinking remains petty because of these old wounds and ongoing concern with how well we are performing moment to moment. These are just more attachments we have, conditions we have counterproductively established that do not permit us to feel good about ourselves, nor enjoy the now, unless we can prove ourselves to ourselves every moment. As if we can never be good enough.

Self-rating is irrelevant. We need to relieve ourselves of the burden of constant self-judgment. This is really the ego, presenting the masks that we think people want to see from us. Just more other-directed conditioning, that is preventing us from exercising free will and being in Flow.

Observer state enables us to clear the slate of all mundanities arising within our robotic false selves, as they arise. Like shooting down a missile while it is just leaving the launching pad. We actually have enough attention to be able to pay close watch on what is going on both inside us and around us at the same time. But not if we are unable to control our own attention. If we are living in fear that fear can cause us to be distracted by sounds or movements in the periphery of our vision.

This is why for thousands of years empiricists in all world cultures have trained themselves and others to be able to concentrate, and to ignore distractions and stay single-pointed. Without the ability to concentrate, metacognition becomes much more difficult if not impossible, and Flow state is likely to never occur.

Among the exercises practiced in some cultures is the burning out of fear, by meditating next to a corpse or in a graveyard. My preferred method is to imagine the feared event happening, and working out what one will do if it happens. Once you see yourself having the guts to ride through the feared situation with your head held high, the fear abates.

Getting rid of fear is part of getting rid of distractions, attachments, and other common habits of people who do not know about the higher states of consciousness they are giving up to hang onto these primitive mental ways.

Instead of keeping score on yourself, just let those impulses float away downstream.

Those scorings will otherwise either pump up your ego, making it more capable of distracting and fooling you, or they will undermine your confidence. Either way they will detract from your future performance. In effect, when you give yourself a bad score at moment #1, you are increasing the odds of giving yourself an even worse score at moment #2.

It is more logical and practical for you to recognize the value of the mistake you just learned from, because it makes you much less likely to make the same kind of mistake again, so in effect you ought to be rewarding yourself for having gotten that mistake out of the way as soon as possible.

But the best path is the one that lets all the scoring disperse as quickly as it tries to grab your attention. With a little practice this is not so difficult. That’s why this is the shortest chapter in this serialized book Powerful Mind.

If something is happening, going with the flow of it is generally the best practice, unless you are certain it is not who you are to go along with that. If something is happening that is against your highest principles you should not go along with it. What you might do is ask a question without seeming to take sides. This gives you the most potential leverage to correct the situation, although others with similar principles might misunderstand your actions. Not being attached to what others might think of you temporarily or permanently frees you to do the most good by your own lights.

Control

You are what you control. Your body and mind may not currently be entirely under your control. Deeply habituated ego conditioning may control your emotional reactions faster than you can stop them. This can feel frustrating and you might be tempted to blame yourself for it. However, if you do not currently control those things, it would be unfair to blame you. Leave aside the blame and simply persevere to take over your own castle knowing that in the end it cannot stop you from taking over.

Equilibrium

Balance and moderation are two of the great virtues taught by classical Greek Philosophy, Taoism, and to some extent by all spiritual traditions as well as inner exploration psychologies. The ability to deal with every moment is maximized by not over reacting, taking everything in stride, not throwing people out of your heart based on something said or unsaid, not being so fervent about your high principles that you get sucked into attachment to them and passionate rejection of what seem like opposite principles. Everything is connected. Dichotomies exist in the mind but what is, is one connected whole.

Key #5

Self-rating is irrelevant.
This is radical new mental strategy #5,
the fifth simple key to the doorway
of the upper mind.

Love to all,
Bill

 

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